Fact or Myth???

Fact or Myth?? : Girls usually go out with the "bad boys" but only bring home the "good boys".

This appears to be one of those silent questions that is often left to burn in the corner of our minds like a remote irritation...but somehow no one has been brave enough to really take it by the horns to wrestle it to the ground and force it to splurt out the truth.

It's a very extremely subjective issue...especially in the definition of "good" boys and "bad" boys.

A very brief, watered, super stereotyped idea of the terms "good" and "bad" are

The "good" boy
Immedieately hails from a good family, people like their parents...well mannered and brought up. Stands up for the rules like curfew and 'please' and 'thank you s'. Loves his family. Homely. Very slow to anger and usually always apolagetic. Doesn't curse and swear and doesn't smoke. Smiles a lot and is likable by almost everyone(especially parents). Looks out for the younger ones under his care. Has good time management habits. Wears slacks and conservatively cut jeans and collared T-shirt...usually sports the fatherly hair cut...says no to piercings...usually sleeps by 12 midnight...1 am is the most...has good hygiene.
And of course...excels in their studies.

The "bad" boy
Comes in two versions...the loud one and the quiet one.
Loud as in the party, clubbing goin guy. Can sometimes be proud and bashful. Usually a life wire in the group. Also likes goin out a lot...sometimes they smoke, drink, and of course curse. Drives really fast and furious with blasting music and doesn't hesitate to give d finger when angered...gets into fights. Acts macho...

Quiet as in has the 'baddie look' but also kinda mysterious. Wears worn out jeans and t-shirts...and converse kind of shoes...has a peculiar temperament, and can be quite unpredictable. Doesn't usually shows off. And sometimes the rough uncouth exterior hides the sentimental kind persona inside.looks nice when he manages a smile...Emo?? Just imagine Jay Chou's character in Initial D.(initial D got a lot of example of bad boy characters)

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As i mentioned earlier...it's stereotyped and not 100% accurate. But you get the idea. Some 'good' boys have certain 'bad' boy traits and vice versa.

I threw this question on my YM status and recieved various response. Here are some excerpts of the responses.

Auds
audreytma: myth
audreytma: the people i enjoy spending time with
audreytma: will be the same people i go out with
audreytma: same people i bring home
audreytma: same people i talk about
audreytma: same people i bring to meet other friends
audreytma: etc
audreytma: i dont think i can like 2 people of two opposite personalities
audreytma: 1 for the road and 1 for home
audreytma: like, diff colour for diff occasion
jason_roag: isn't differnt color for different occasion a good thing?
jason_roag: ??
audreytma: hahaha
audreytma: yea
audreytma: i mean. as though different colour for a different occasion. but yet, it's not the same for guys.
audreytma: erm..
audreytma: how to put it
jason_roag: so like the guy means like the ins and the outs lar
jason_roag: the good and the bads
audreytma: i.e., changing partners like changing clothes
jason_roag: what...*big eyes*
audreytma: LOL on the floor
audreytma: nvm
jason_roag: *big eyes*
audreytma: just forget what i said
audreytma: i just confused myself too
audreytma: so
audreytma: do you belong to the 'bad' or 'good'
audreytma: =P

ZX
jason_roag: my satus..fact or myth
Zhen Xin Ng: no gal bring me home also....darnnit
Zhen Xin Ng: hahahaha
Zhen Xin Ng: am i bad?
Zhen Xin Ng: hahaha
jason_roag: hahaha
jason_roag: just answer lar
jason_roag: LOL
Zhen Xin Ng: i guess they infatuation with bad boys and have a fling with em....but they will only settle down n steady with a good guy
Zhen Xin Ng: not sure tho...just a tought
jason_roag: ok ok
Zhen Xin Ng: yeah lor
Zhen Xin Ng: i dun think they see security in bad boys but they see excitement in them....adventure kua
jason_roag: always see the rich pai kia got pretty girlfriend
jason_roag: but he treat the girl like object only the girl still ikut
Zhen Xin Ng: memang lar
Zhen Xin Ng: some gals kena abuse by them wan lar
Zhen Xin Ng: really..
Zhen Xin Ng: hmm....really dun understand lar
Zhen Xin Ng: this wan u haf to ask the gals lar
Zhen Xin Ng: i also duno
jason_roag: yea

Deric
jason_roag: yo yo
Deric Tan: yo
jason_roag: fact or myth
Deric Tan: hmm
Deric Tan: certain truth to it/
Deric Tan: ?
jason_roag: er...u have to chose
Deric Tan: myth?
jason_roag: myth ar..
jason_roag: sure
Deric Tan: well, we always say the girls go out with the bad boys
Deric Tan: but we don't really mean it..
Deric Tan: hehe

Justin
Justin Lee: yo abt ur status
Justin Lee: its a fact
Justin Lee: ahahahah
jason_roag: yea
jason_roag: haha
jason_roag: ok
jason_roag: so far two girls said it's myth
jason_roag: two guys said its fact
Justin Lee: hahahah
Justin Lee: i think its that way cos.. the gals are like.. trying to cover line
Justin Lee: then the guys know
Justin Lee: ahahaha
jason_roag: haha
Justin Lee: *grin*
jason_roag: but seriously...fact or myth
Justin Lee: fact la .
Justin Lee: for me la.

VJ
vijayraj2785: yo
vijayraj2785: i think its a fact
vijayraj2785: ahahah
vijayraj2785: slow to respond but its all good
vijayraj2785:
jason_roag: yea
jason_roag: wat?
jason_roag: fact ar
jason_roag: haha
vijayraj2785: ahahah
vijayraj2785: fact lah babe
vijayraj2785: ahahah
vijayraj2785: i was reading then i think its a fact lah
jason_roag: yea...quite obvious...
vijayraj2785: ahaha
vijayraj2785: neway
vijayraj2785: they deny it but its a fact lah
vijayraj2785: ahaha
vijayraj2785: i went to your blog then saw evry PG got give a comment
vijayraj2785: so i didnt want to feel left out
vijayraj2785: ahaha

andrew
jason_roag: so myth or fact
andrew liu: plausible fact
andrew liu: every girl likes to go out with the comfortable "bad" boys
andrew liu: but only wants the long term "good" boys back at home
jason_roag: why?
andrew liu: "bad" boys gives them the feeling they're free? not constricted by traditional thinking?
andrew liu: the flip side
andrew liu: "good" boys ARE known fact good for long term relationships
andrew liu: im under the "good boys" section

Stefanie
Stefanie Chong: depends on the girl. i've done polling myself before. half of the girls said gd boy, other half said bad boy
Stefanie Chong: personally? gd boy
jason_roag: sure ar..good boy?
Stefanie Chong: the gd boy bad boy is pretty stereotype methinks
jason_roag: huh?
Stefanie Chong: not all guys fall in those categories
Stefanie Chong: some guys arent exactly players but u cant say they're relaly gd boys wat
Stefanie Chong: *grin*
Stefanie Chong: the definitions tat u gave bout the gd boy, loud bad boy n the quiet bad boy?
Stefanie Chong: too little la. still got more wat *smile*
jason_roag: malas one to write panjang panjang,,,anyway juz to give the idea...coz it's totally subjective
Stefanie Chong: true
Stefanie Chong: but i didnt answer the fact or myth thing *blek*
Stefanie Chong: i'd say 80% fact 20% myth

chee kah
jason_roag: fact or myth?
chee kah: fact
jason_roag: ok
jason_roag: why fact?
chee kah: well.........
chee kah: cos to me is true la
chee kah: ahhaha
chee kah: don't know why
chee kah: jsut feel so
jason_roag: ok ok
jason_roag: so far,,,almost all the guys said fact
jason_roag: and all the girls said myth
chee kah: LOL
chee kah: ohh
chee kah: why suddently start this?
jason_roag: this just proves something lar...both sexes see the whole thing in an opposite way
jason_roag: hmm...trying to uncover the silent mystery
chee kah: good job

laura
laura frog: errr..
laura frog: *thinking*
laura frog: i think tht..
laura frog: girls are attracted to bad boys la..
laura frog: but then.. again..
laura frog: its 2 diff things ar.. are they looking fer a bf.. of a hubby
laura frog: its a choice la.. so its up to the girl really.. if she wanna find a bf den i think she will go with a bad boy ler.. but if d hubby then its a diff story la.. its all abt wat u want in that person
jason_roag: haha..ok

kae ee
jason_roag: fact or myth?
Kae Ee: fact
jason_roag: why fact
Kae Ee: or maybe myth
jason_roag: elaborate
jason_roag: eh..chose one lar
jason_roag: haha
Kae Ee: din see ur status just now. Haha
jason_roag: so,..fact or myth?
Kae Ee: hmm
Kae Ee: dunno la. i thinkmyth.
Kae Ee: coz they won't bring the good ones home either LOL
jason_roag: hahah....ok
jason_roag: so you goin with myth lar?

ai ai
ecarg Teo: myth....hoho
jason_roag: y myth?
jason_roag: ho ho ho?
ecarg Teo: coz coz....
ecarg Teo: abit weird la...
ecarg Teo: go out wif bad boys....but bring home good boys...
ecarg Teo: doesnt make sense to me
ecarg Teo: the fact tht they go out wif bad boys edi shows tht they like bad boys...why bring home good boys instead?
ecarg Teo: ....juz to please parentss...
ecarg Teo: doesnt work tht way la
ecarg Teo: so i tihnk tht if u go out wif bad boys..u shd bring back bad boys as well....but if u go out wif good boyss..den u will bring back good boys..hoho

stefanie
jason_roag: fact or myth...my status
Stefanie Goh: hahahaha
Stefanie Goh: fact
Stefanie Goh: for me la
jason_roag: why?
Stefanie Goh: actually i personally like bad boys than good boys
jason_roag: ok
Stefanie Goh: dun know la
Stefanie Goh: i feel good boys boring la

bea
Beatrice Leong: partly fact partly myth...u cant generalize it...as all girls are different from one another..

michelle
mysh: *haha* on the good/bad boy post, jason. i see all the working's been keeping you 'busy' *grin*. my say? bad boys are intriguing, good guys are 'cute'. unpredictable vs predictable. adventure vs safe. wild vs presentable.
mysh: i say what would be nice is a 'bad' guy with his heart in the right places - meaning he's 'good' for the things that REALLY matter. - have fun with the survey, and with life, jason. cheers~ [my favourite insight is michelle's]
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A general conclusion that i can make is that most girls says it's a myth while the guys will say it's a fact. Guys generally feel that girls flirt with the baddies for adventure and fun but when the time comes, they will fish in the more stable "goodie two shoes" ones to settle down with.
Girls generally dislike being labeled as such and seek to clarify the matter as a "myth" and that there is no so called 'double standard' in their selection.
It kinda reflects what the different sexes think. But than again, it's just a broad general opinion.

I guess the best thing is to be 'real' and not a 'poser'...it's good to be a little bit of both bad and good...and make real friends with the opposite sex without alterior motives regardless of whether you're 'good' or 'bad'. I think one of the most important ingredient to lasting friendship is sincerity and godliness.
People are such freaking "players" nowadays...can't guys treat a girl like a sister in Christ or at least a normal sister that we can bless and edify without "checking" the rack? *me held guilty as well*
Do girls really mean it when they seek meaningful friendships without leaving them to "hang and dry" when someone more macho or baby face comes along...what's the obsession with pretty boys lar???LOL... What's the significance of being macho anyway? pffttt

So is it a myth or fact?
To me...let the boys grow up to be real men first...who have a calling in their lives to fulfill...God's calling... =D
then...whether he's 'good' or 'bad' boy material...sure will be an excellent catch for the lucky girl... =P

Don't settle for boys lar...go for men....*grin*

ps...if i offended anyone especially in using the YM excerpts, gimme a buzz and i'll set it right.